tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post1984734782700505078..comments2016-12-20T10:43:15.569-06:00Comments on The Silent Birth Mother: I Got An Email!!!In Blind Faithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11228999385419721633noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post-44004942300958000672012-11-23T16:54:01.222-06:002012-11-23T16:54:01.222-06:00So happy for you that you received a reply! I'...So happy for you that you received a reply! I'm so glad that she reached out! Good luck on the next steps! I'll keep sending good thoughts your way.Saranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post-63776180871866993802012-11-21T07:49:48.012-06:002012-11-21T07:49:48.012-06:00I'm working on the reply. I re-wrote the draf...I'm working on the reply. I re-wrote the draft several times yesterday. I am going to address the friend situation, i think I can finally respond to that without being defensive.<br /><br />I'm hoping my response will help her put her guard down a little bit. As far as the Agency thing...well, hopefully I can keep communication going between the two of us so if and when she goes to the Agency she will see how they manipulated and lied to me. If she is as stubborn as I am then she will need to see this for herself. Until then I must remember...she's on the kool aid and I need to take this at HER pace.<br /><br />My head is still spinning from the email :-)In Blind Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11228999385419721633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post-72700254414133817092012-11-20T21:09:11.047-06:002012-11-20T21:09:11.047-06:00Good for you - the first of many steps!Good for you - the first of many steps!Angellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02400662014485775139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post-292008091747675462012-11-20T16:50:00.762-06:002012-11-20T16:50:00.762-06:00I am so thrilled for you!!! This is the best news ...I am so thrilled for you!!! This is the best news that you could share. What does she mean the agency will be there when she is ready? As in counseling or more contact? Sorry about the tone about her not liking to talk about adoption. It could be that her family don't want to talk about it and she grew up thinking she couldn't talk about. birthmothertalkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17690158739622745922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post-40157982724128099162012-11-20T14:00:33.440-06:002012-11-20T14:00:33.440-06:00I am SO VERY happy for you!!!!!!! As hard as it i...I am SO VERY happy for you!!!!!!! As hard as it is, try to not take a defensive stance with those comments. Either ignore them all together or just keep the reply about it short and factual (not emotional). <br /><br />There are some things that my son is still deeply in the fog about ~ it is so hard to not try to throw him out of that fog. I look at it as something that's just going to take time. I was in my 40's before I stopped believing all the kool-aid, it may take that long for him too. <br /><br />Again ~ I am so very, very happy for you!!!!!Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post-91713424258958609342012-11-20T09:57:38.689-06:002012-11-20T09:57:38.689-06:00I'm so excited for you!I'm so excited for you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07165737918653065179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post-83637403367909256282012-11-20T09:57:19.565-06:002012-11-20T09:57:19.565-06:00I'm so happy for you!I'm so happy for you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07165737918653065179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post-77262426911617553642012-11-20T09:09:36.355-06:002012-11-20T09:09:36.355-06:00Yup, she's been drinking the kool-aid. It suc...Yup, she's been drinking the kool-aid. It sucks but then again, I was there too and I'm sure I said some equally bad (though well-intentioned) things to my natural mother in my first email.<br /><br />I'm so happy she emailed you! I can't stop smiling over this! I feel like as long as you both have patience, you'll be able to work through minor things (because that's really all this stuff is).<br /><br />Deep breath. Now the work really begins! (((hugs)))Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07905673873066445519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902279825256365481.post-1744767339930533582012-11-20T08:25:29.639-06:002012-11-20T08:25:29.639-06:00Im so happy for you!!Im so happy for you!!Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.com